Bad obssesion

We all fall for the bad guy. because the bad guy is the master of lies and deception.. we can't understand one's situation unless you're exactly in that same situation. Here's the thing, my best friend is going through stuff that i could only imagine half of it. Early today, she asked me to text his stupid and soon-to-be-ex-boyfriend to tell him she'd gone miserable without him. that she was no where to be found, and that she just informed me she had thought of killing herself..of course that was just a joke. she just wanna messed with the jerks head. Before this incident, she wanted to go to stupid guy's house or his office to make a scene..this one, she'd really consider, i just convinced her to think it over. Back to the evil chauvanist pig, he was the typical pinoy babaero, he has a wife, a kid, and my best friend is her other woman. you know how it's like..my best friend knows what she's gettin herself in when she decided to have a relationship with this guy. and we all know this isnt right, but let's not judge her for that, he loved the guy, she loves him so much, that she lost everything including practical and moral reasoning for this one..she'd been through a lot with this guy, she's taken a whole lot of sacrifice for him, he wanted her to build her world around him, he feeds her with lies and promises even when he knows he can't keep it..he's one controlling, immature, selfish, 49 yr old sex freak. he's an ass, and i never liked him. when he gets mad, he would say a lot of foul and hurtful things to my best friend, and at one point she admitted how he had hit her..they've broken up and then gotten back so many times already..and this wasn't the only time that i told her to quit it, and move on with her life. She's just blinded by this relationship that she's being all stupid. i can't blame her,as much as i want to hit her head with a bat or something hard so she could start using her brains and dump the asshat already. she's pragmatic. and her heart is just as stubborn as always..so being the best friend that i always was, i've been her shock absorber, her therapist, her shoulder to cry on since day one..but as it turns out, im not doing very good at it.. i'm not doing the right thing anymore..i, myself is just tolerating this behavior. i know she just wants to be understood..and i get her you know, i've been there, i know how it's like, i may not be the other woman, but i know how it feels like to be mistreated and be abused verbally, emotionally and physically. but she's gotta let it go. she's gotta get out of that situation before she's all too scared to do so..but no matter what i say or do, she's just too stubborn. i don't know what else to do. As far as our friendship is concerned, i know i've always been there no matter what.. but lately, i feel like i can't tolerate this bad relationship anymore.. Besides that she's being too desperate and too crazy..and she hates me when i tell her that. but she's turning into this obsessed and emotional bitch that i can't talk her out of it..she would hate him and all, but when he 'd call her, she would forgive him and let her in her life over again. Gawd..she's gotta stop already. i know she's realizing this one too..she just wont do it. and she knows it wont be easy, and she knows how i know this because i used to be in this sickening routine in a relationship ..breaking up and going back and doing the same mistakes over and over again.. and i've been obsessed with this bad behavior. i used to go on for hours talking about my stupid ex-boyfriend and how i wanted to strangle him and beat the douche bag to death. i hated him so bad that i actually wished bad things to happen to him. and yet i couldn't stop thinking about him. i didn't know exactly when, i finally get a hold of myself, and completely let everything go. i didn't know how i did it, i guess it would just happen. i just realize one day, how stupid i had been..I remember i went through the classic phase of confusion and paranoia after the relationship was over, you know-- like feeling hate and love at the same time..holding on and letting go at the same time.. moreover waking up every morning wondering about him and wishing he'd come back..or wishing one day i'll forget everything..i go about with my everyday life being haunted by his memories despite how bad it has been.and i used to like, justify his wrong doings and make it look like whatever happened, no matter how many times he cheated and lied to me, i know he loves me..So whenever he'd call, i'd forgive him, and accept him back, thinking one day he'd change. but he aint. he wont, and i guess he'll never will. And it's funny how are minds plays tricks on ourselves.. i thought i actually felt inferior to him and that i actually blame my self because of my shortcomings..i was a mess then. my stupid head, and my stubborn heart,such a messy combination.. i remember how we ended us. which is likely the closure i was expecting, we just never talked to each other anymore.. it's harder to be left hangin'..it's confusing, and as bitter as i used to be,I vaguely remember all the other things in between. when i decided i'd never wanna see him again..i started thinking straight, and think about myself.. i didn't wanna get involved with any of his ass kinds anymore. i don't want him anymore, i couldn't love a person like that. so, i changed my number, i changed everything in my life, i moved on with my single life naturally, so to speak..but it wasn't easy.. and certainly not fun to go through..but i did it..
Being in a bad relationship is hard and going through a bad break up is twice as hard..but you gotta start to think about yourself. you gotta stop letting people treat you any less than what you really deserve. it wont be hard to let go of someone who's become the biggest part of youre life, it wont be easy to start over and it wont be easy to forget all your wounds..but i guess after a while, you'll just get over it.. and you'll eventually get passed it..you see, time heals all wounds..and i hope to God that my best friend will finally realize that she deserves better and start acting on it so she could start healing her wounds.. and for the love of all that is holy, I pray that every bad guy in this world fall a flight of stairs and die painfully and slowly. bwehehehe!

xoxoxo

What‘s the saying whose the idiot, the idiot or the idiot who dates him.